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Anneliese - 2006-07-11 12:34:58
Oh babe, what do I say to that? Of course you don't want to always be the responsible one. You want to feel you have a partner, not another kid. And he doesn't seem to be able to overcome his fear of asking for money. This is a deep issue for him, and unless he becomes conscious of it and works on it, no amount of upset from you will likely change it. In that case, if he won't dissolve the business and you are stuck there until at least when school starts, maybe you could tell him he doesn't have to have any money discussions at all, since you know he's obviously uncomfortable doing it, and that all he has to do is get their telephone number so you can discuss the business side of it with them. It almost completely takes him off the hook, and you get the control. It may be that YOU should be "owning" and running the business, and he is more of the doer.
Of course this means more responsibility for you in a time when you have had enough. But at least this may help you financially, and mentally, as you won't have so much bullshit driving you crazy.
At the end of every day, ask him if he has any new jobs, and the names and numbers of those people, or where they live, any info so that you can find out how to contact them if Hub has been lax about getting their phone numbers.
If you are logical about it, and frame it in the right way, maybe he'll even be relieved to have the pressure off.
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jess - 2006-07-11 13:31:40
Jesus Christ, that is a shitload to deal with. For fuck's sake, I don't even know where to begin in commenting. First of all, how fucking embarassing that your friend asked you to never bring Daisy back! I cannot imagine what a little fucking brat she must have been to warrant being disinvited to any NY vacation ever again. Terrible! Secondly, I am pissed off at your husband for acting like such an irresponsible child while you were gone. The littlest of things he could have done for you to show you that he cares, and he didn't. You are right - the DOES speak volumes. Overall, although of course I wish you two could work it out, I think this environment sounds totally toxic for you. You really need to get out. I heart you. xoxo - me
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jennifer - 2006-07-11 16:54:31
So THAT'S why you went to the bank. I can't believe that I talked to you on the phone today. THEE Jackie! Hope that cheered you up, because it sure made my day! I must do crunches and get in shape so it doesn't feel like my body is engulfed in flames every time I wear my suit in public. CUZ WE'RE GOING TO HAMPTON BEACH! Yeah!
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Dawn (webmiztris) - 2006-07-12 12:41:23
oh, jackie...I can't wait until you get out of the hellhole. you deserve so much better.
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Kathy - 2006-07-13 06:45:38
Geez, I am in shock with the amount of crap you have been putting up with. You are super mom and on top of it have to put up with all his crap. That is not on. You are a string, bright , lovely woman and under no circumstances should you have to put up with that. He needs a bloody serious talking to, if that will help, or if not he is going to lose what maybe is the best thing that ever ever happened to him. Please take care. x
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